In the countdown to orientation week, many parents are contemplating just what to say to their children who are entering first year. English’s own Dr. Frankie Condon is no different. Read on for what a professor wants her children to know as they head to university. –JLH
Dr. Mom’s Tips for Success in University
1. SHOW UP
Go to class (duh!) and do the assigned reading before class (duh!). If there’s a pop quiz, you’ll be ready. Class discussion, you’ll be ready. Preparing for exams, you’ll be ready.
2. CHOOSE TO BE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ACTION
Sit in one of the front two rows every day in class. And…check out which hand your professor writes with. Choose a seat on the opposite side of your professor’s writing hand when she’s turned toward away from students and toward the white board, black board or screen. I’m not kidding! Really do this!
3. BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT
No matter how hard it may be at first, put your phone away during class! Keep your head up and your mind alert. Believe me! Your professors will see you on your phone and may well infer (based on experience) that your mind is elsewhere, that you don’t care about their subject or about the learning you and your classmates might accomplish. Stay awake, interested, alert to learning.
4. BE ORGANIZED
If you are handed a syllabus at the beginning of the semester, put it in your binder ASAP. If your syllabus is online, print it and put it in your binder ASAP. Then, go to what will probably be the final page of the syllabus for the class schedule. Put every due date for every assignment into your agenda ASAP. For every due date, consider how long it will take you to complete that assignment (be generous and add time for procrastinating cuz, well, you know). Put start dates for each assignment into your agenda. If you are given handouts in class, put them in your binder (in other words, don’t lose shit cuz it annoys your professors and suggests that you don’t care or that you’re careless).
5. BE A BRAVE AND FIERCE PARTICIPANT IN YOUR OWN LEARNING
Raise your hand to ask a question or to contribute to class discussion at least once during each class meeting. If your class is having a difficult discussion about race or gender or sexual orientation or religion or war, BE BRAVE. If you hear something that troubles you, ask why or how your classmates or your teacher came to think or believe in the ways they do. BE BRAVE! Tell your classmates and your teacher how you have come to think and believe as you do. Link your comments and questions to the readings you’ve done for class or on your own. BE BRAVE. Share the contents of your mind and the processes of your learning with your teacher and your classmates, no matter what the subject.
6. DREAM BIG AND WORK HARD
University is a great time and place to imagine all the things you might do and become. Practice seeing the world and yourself from new vantage points. Whether you are in class or on the ice, demand the best of yourself, give the best of yourself, and open yourself to the learning that becomes possible when you risk failure by pushing yourself beyond what you know you are and can do. Go to the outside edges of what you know and see what you can learn from there.
7. EARN YOUR PRIVILEGES
If you are the student who shows up consistently, who is prepared for class consistently, whose written assignments demonstrate thoughtfulness, engagement, and care, then you are probably the student who can ask for an extension or extra help and get a positive response.
8. ASK FOR THE HELP YOU NEED
If you already knew everything you’re going to university to learn, you wouldn’t need university at all. Ask questions. Go to every one of your professors’ office hours at least once during the term. Talk with your professors about what interests you in their class, about the things that make you curious. Share your interests with your professors and ask about their interests too. You will learn so much more in such conversations than you will ever learn by merely going to class. If you need help to understand something you’re being taught, ask for it. Your professors’ jobs include providing this support to you. Just remember, the better the question you ask, the fuller the answer you’ll get. Do the reading, review your notes, do a bit of research on your own then explain to your professor what you’ve done to try to find the answer on your own. Trust me, they’ll be impressed and they’ll want to help you.
9. GO TO THE WRITING CENTRE
(AND GET A JOB THERE IF YOU CAN!)
Everything you do – from processing your course readings to all of the writing you produce in university – will be better for having a dialogue about them. And writing centres are awesome places to work when you’re a student!
10. MAKE FRIENDS WITH LOTS OF DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE
Don’t always look for the folks who look like you, talk like you, think like you. BE BOLD! Reach out to folks who are different from you. And reach out to those who may need care. BE KIND! Seize the opportunity to grow your soul and your mind by coming to know all kinds of people, by heeding your upbringing and your intuition, and by thinking about who you want to be in this world and bringing the best you can imagine of yourself to every relationship you make.
11. PRACTICE SELF-CARE!
University can be stressful. There will be times when you doubt yourself, wonder if you can succeed or achieve your dreams or make your family and friends proud. Whatever your fear or worry, whatever your failure, whatever your sorrow, reach out. Go to the gym regularly before during and after your season. Sleep! But also, and most importantly, talk to your family, talk to your friends, talk to a counsellor or to a professor you trust. Never allow yourself to believe that success means going it alone. Reach out and know that you are loved!
12. CALL OR TEXT YOUR MOM EVERY DAY!
BECAUSE YOU ARE LOVED AND MOMS NEED LOVE TOO!